Drama, drama- all is drama
This is going to have to be relatively short since I am off to get my "hair did" as Missy Elliot would say...
So...I almost had a run-in with my parents this weekend. As not at all bad as that would sound to a normal person, it's not so for me. See, I pretty much divorced my parents 2 years ago after a VERY long time of them treating me like crap. It honestly is the best thing for me and my husband and friends and in-laws all fully support me in my decision.
However (isn't there always one of those?), my family does NOT see it from my point of view. Particularly my mother's family who I am still in touch with. My husband and I went to a family event this past Saturday with the notion that my parents were not going to be there. Well, SOMEHOW it managed to slip 5 or 6 different people's minds that, oh by the way, yes they were. Fortunately, my husband saw my father slinking into the house where the party was and before you can say "The package is out in the open" he had escorted me out of there like I was the president under fire! He got me outside in the car ready to go before I even saw them. (See- we have an agreement. I don't ever want to see my parents again, and he agrees with me.) My aunt came out and talked to me for a few minutes about the whole situation, but thankfully didn't try to guilt trip me into coming back inside. However, she is pushing me to try to re-connect with my mother. Unfortunately, my mother has no spine and basically sides with my father at all times since he is a religious bully.
I think the thing that is frustrating me me the most is that it seems like my aunt and grandmother (who I love dearly) are really forcing the issue with my mom and I DO NOT appreciate that at all. I know for a fact that they can't understand that not having my parents (yes, both of them) in my life is a goods thing for me. My Father-in-law thinks that I need to have a really honest conversation with them where I tell them that I can appreciate where they are coming from, but that they are going to have to accept that any decision that I make about my relationship with my parents is just that- mine.
I didn't want this blog to be all heavy and what not, but I needed to get some of this off my chest today. I'm sick of trying to be a grown-up but having people still try to make me do something because "It's the best thing for me." Well, maybe it isn't.
So...I almost had a run-in with my parents this weekend. As not at all bad as that would sound to a normal person, it's not so for me. See, I pretty much divorced my parents 2 years ago after a VERY long time of them treating me like crap. It honestly is the best thing for me and my husband and friends and in-laws all fully support me in my decision.
However (isn't there always one of those?), my family does NOT see it from my point of view. Particularly my mother's family who I am still in touch with. My husband and I went to a family event this past Saturday with the notion that my parents were not going to be there. Well, SOMEHOW it managed to slip 5 or 6 different people's minds that, oh by the way, yes they were. Fortunately, my husband saw my father slinking into the house where the party was and before you can say "The package is out in the open" he had escorted me out of there like I was the president under fire! He got me outside in the car ready to go before I even saw them. (See- we have an agreement. I don't ever want to see my parents again, and he agrees with me.) My aunt came out and talked to me for a few minutes about the whole situation, but thankfully didn't try to guilt trip me into coming back inside. However, she is pushing me to try to re-connect with my mother. Unfortunately, my mother has no spine and basically sides with my father at all times since he is a religious bully.
I think the thing that is frustrating me me the most is that it seems like my aunt and grandmother (who I love dearly) are really forcing the issue with my mom and I DO NOT appreciate that at all. I know for a fact that they can't understand that not having my parents (yes, both of them) in my life is a goods thing for me. My Father-in-law thinks that I need to have a really honest conversation with them where I tell them that I can appreciate where they are coming from, but that they are going to have to accept that any decision that I make about my relationship with my parents is just that- mine.
I didn't want this blog to be all heavy and what not, but I needed to get some of this off my chest today. I'm sick of trying to be a grown-up but having people still try to make me do something because "It's the best thing for me." Well, maybe it isn't.
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